Michael Marvosh

michaelmarvosh.com/now

Imagine you say something and I get irritated. But instead of telling you I'm irritated I hide it and start replying to what you said. When I do that, I'm inevitably influenced by my irritation and my replies are colored to try to alleviate that irritation. In other words, the fact that I didn't fully notice and take responsibility for my irritation means it is now driving me, and preventing me from being fully present with you. I do not have the power to not be irritated. What irritates me irritates me. I do have the power to take responsibility for my irritation by naming it: "I notice that what you just said irritated me." This is true of all feeling responses prompted by what other people say and do. I am practicing noticing, naming, and therefore taking responsibility for my feeling responses.

Location:

Boise, Idaho, U.S.A.

Professional title:

Father, customer support, problem-solver, still learning

What do you do?

I am, sometimes messily, learning how to live my life.

Why?

I want to be an extraordinary person in service to others and the world. I want to be powerful in dancing with what is. I want to learn how to live well and die well.

What should we read?

I Who Have Never Known Men by Jacqueline Harpman The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

URLs:

• http://michaelmarvosh.com/
• https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelmarvosh/
• https://www.deadmansforest.org/